You want to grow as a Christian, you NEED Koinonia (Fellowship).
No amount of sermons you listen to as a believer will make you grow as God wants you to. Don’t get me wrong, sermons are great catalyst in placing one on that pedestal of growth God wants us to have but you can’t move up if you never can sit down and have fellowship with the Spirit which in turn means you having Fellowship with the Son and the Father because the 3 are 1 but Koinonia is with the Spirit which resides on the inside of us and helps us reach out to the Father through Jesus.
Many of us actually zealous in church, a lot of us want to spend our day playing instruments, singing, teaching n doing other things in God’s house but God’s first desire is for a fellowship with us.
Fellowship is defined as A feeling of friendship or connection between two or more people or Spiritual communion with a divine being. It is the point where you pour out your mind and you know the other’s mind cos it’s poured out.
The grace of the Lord Jesus Christ and the love of God and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you all.(2 Cor 13:14). The Grace and Love we ask us which are the distinct personality and attributes of the Father and the Son cannot be complete and accessed fully till fellowship takes place with the Holy Spirit. Why? This is because the Holy Spirit is the one that does the work of revealing who GRACE is to Us and Christ is the revealer of who God is
2 Cor 3:18 But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord.
Note: 1. A King cannot reveal the fullness of his GLORY to one without his tent. 2. You are not changed at once at the point of accepting a relationship with Christ (this is key before fellowship). Change comes from Koinonia (The more time you spend with someone, the greater influence they’ll have on you.) Everyday you begin to see that there is likeness in the way you talk, you begin to think alike [Phil 2:5 Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus…This verse is at the center of two(2) wonderful revelation to God’s body but the beauty of this verse is the foundation to it (Phil 1:5,27-2:1-4 – there’s got to be oneness in Spirit, like mindedness esteeming of one’s self lower than others, getting to know others need, same love etc- all these are impossible without a fellowship (getting to know each other) first taking place.)]
To serve God effectively, there must be a certain level of revelation which can never be till there is a certain level of fellowship. The extent to which you’ll know Christ is to the degree to which you are ready to Sit and have discussions/fellowship with the Holy Spirit.
Scriptures For Further Reading!!
1 Corinthians 1:9-10 KJV God is faithful, by whom ye were called unto the fellowship of his Son Jesus Christ our Lord.
2 Corinthians 6:14 KJV Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? A strong greek root word is used for fellowship here is metochē (like having sexual intercourse -From the little I know about it, at this point you are fully given to yourselves)
Ephesians 3:9 KJV And to make all men see what is the fellowship of the mystery, which from the beginning of the world hath been hid in God, who created all things by Jesus Christ: (There is a certain mystery to know that fellowship brings to light.)
Philippians 3:10 KJV That I may know him, and the power of his resurrection, and the fellowship of his sufferings, being made conformable unto his death; [Now this part we don’t want to or like hearing. Fellowship with someone sometimes bring us to the point where we undergo pains n trials for standing for what that other party stands for that’s why Apostle Paul told Tim in his second letter to him (3:12) Yea, and all that will live godly in Christ Jesus shall suffer persecution.(note the word “IN”. You living as a branch that fellowships with the Vine John 15)].
1 John 1:3 KJV That which we have seen and heard declare we unto you, that ye also may have fellowship with us: and truly our fellowship is with the Father, and with his Son Jesus Christ.
1 John 1:6-7 KJV If we say that we have fellowship with him, and walk in darkness, we lie, and do not the truth:  But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin.
Why all these? 1 John 1:4 KJV And these things write we unto you, that your joy may be full.
Revelation 3:20 KJV Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me.
You’ve kept him out for so long.. You might not be a sinner, you might have been in a relationship with him that his given your life to him and all you think about now is running here and there to work for him. But what about your communion life? When was the last time you had breakfast/lunch or dinner with him? When was the last time you spent time with him? When was the last time you allowed him do the talking while you listened or you do all the talking and walk away leaving him without allowing him say one word?
You back home as a father having created time to talk, discuss with your children or vice versa and the excuse from the other party remains Dad/Mom, let me get you this or that, let me conclude this work/job, oh!!! This house is too dirty let me arrange then we talk. And you feel dejected, frustrated cos your child or parents actually think you want them just to get stuffs for you and not sit with you.
The scenario above paints what we do to God still yet He loves us and he calls, whisper gently, tenderly for us to open up!! Can’t you hear him say Son, Daughter enough of activities, I wanna spend time with you?
Please just open up and experience Joy untold. Selah.